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A written program on mindset, discipline and conduct

The
Standard

A 196-page PDF book that turns twelve weeks of essays and written exercises into a standard you actually keep.

Most self-development fails for the same reason: it is consumed rather than practised. This book is built the other way round. Twelve weekly modules, ninety-six written exercises, and a page at the end of every week where you write down what you actually did. It is a book about becoming a more disciplined, more honest and more useful man — and the only person who reads your answers is you.

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Product name
The Standard — A 12-Week Written Program on Mindset, Discipline and Becoming a Better Man
Product type
Digital book (ebook). A single, fixed, pre-written publication.
Subject
Self-development for men: mindset, discipline, habit, emotional control, relationships and purpose, taught through essays and written exercises.
Author & publisher
selfdevelopment.store, Miami, Florida, United States
Length
196 pages · approximately 52,000 words · 12 weekly modules · 96 written exercises
File format
PDF (Portable Document Format), approx. 8 MB, no DRM, no password
Language
English
Price
USD 29.00 — a single one-time payment. There is no subscription, no recurring charge, no trial that converts, and no upsell required to use the book.
Billing descriptor
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Emailed to the address given at checkout, normally within five minutes of a successful payment. See the Delivery Policy.
Access
Permanent. The file is yours to keep and re-download. No account, no login, no app, no expiry date.
Requirements
Any device with a PDF reader — phone, tablet, laptop or e-reader. No internet connection needed once downloaded.
Physical goods
None. Nothing is shipped and no shipping is charged.
Refunds
Full refund on request within 14 days of purchase, no reason required. See the Refund Policy.
Age restriction
Sold to adults aged 18 and over.
Customer support
psalfiti@gmail.com · +1 (917) 563-6381 · Mon–Fri, 9am–6pm ET, replies within one business day
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Table of contents

What’s inside
the 196 pages

Four parts. Part II is the twelve-week programme that forms the body of the book.

Part I — Foundations

6 chapters · pages 1–36
  • 1. What a standard is. The difference between motivation, which comes and goes, and a standard, which is simply what you do.
  • 2. An honest inventory. Where you actually are — written down, in detail, without flattery and without theatre.
  • 3. Values before goals. Deciding what you are for before deciding what you will do.
  • 4. Why writing works. The case for putting a question on paper instead of turning it over in your head for another year.
  • 5. How to use the twelve weeks. The structure of every module and how long each one realistically takes.
  • 6. Telling yourself the truth. How to notice when you are writing what you wish were true.

Part II — The twelve weeks

12 modules · 96 exercises · pages 37–140
  • Week 1 — Discipline before motivation. Why waiting to feel like it is the reason most attempts fail, and what to do instead.
  • Week 2 — The morning you control. Building one fixed, non-negotiable block into the start of the day.
  • Week 3 — The body as foundation. Training, sleep and food treated as ordinary habits to be kept, not as a health programme.
  • Week 4 — Attention. What you read, watch and scroll, how much of it you chose, and what it leaves behind.
  • Week 5 — Work and craft. Doing the job properly when nobody is checking, and the long argument for competence.
  • Week 6 — Money and restraint. Spending, saving and status. About self-control with money — not about earning more of it.
  • Week 7 — Anger and emotional control. Recognising the moment before the reaction, and writing down what actually set it off.
  • Week 8 — Fear, avoidance and procrastination. Naming the specific thing you are avoiding, in writing, and the smallest first move.
  • Week 9 — Integrity in small things. Punctuality, promises and the quiet habits that decide whether you can be relied upon.
  • Week 10 — Partner, family and fatherhood. Attention, patience and repair — the practical work of the closest relationships.
  • Week 11 — Friendship and brotherhood. Keeping male friendships as an adult, and why isolation is a predictable trap.
  • Week 12 — Purpose and the year ahead. Turning twelve weeks of written answers into one page you will actually keep.
  • Each module contains: a 2,500–3,500 word essay; eight written exercises; a one-page statement of the standard for that week; and a weekly review page where you record what you actually did.

Part III — Difficult ground

5 chapters · pages 141–172
  • 13. When you fail the standard. Setbacks, relapse and starting again without self-hatred, which is its own form of avoidance.
  • 14. Comparison and envy. The highlight reel, the scoreboard, and why measuring against other men is a losing habit.
  • 15. Loneliness and asking for help. Why men delay asking, what it costs, and how to ask plainly.
  • 16. Shame and a past you cannot change. Writing an honest account of something you regret, and what to do with it afterwards.
  • 17. When to close this book. The limits of self-directed work, and the point at which to speak to a qualified professional instead.

Part IV — Making it permanent

4 chapters + appendices · pages 173–196
  • 18. The ten-minute daily page. A short, repeatable routine you can keep on a bad day.
  • 19. Monthly and quarterly reviews. Reading back what you wrote and noticing the pattern.
  • 20. A standard you keep for a decade. How the weekly habit survives a job change, a move, a new child or a hard year.
  • 21. Further reading. An annotated bibliography of 24 books on discipline, habit, psychology, philosophy and biography.
  • Appendix A: index of all 96 exercises. Appendix B: 40 blank prompt pages. Appendix C: glossary of terms used in the book.
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Scope of the product

What this book
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We would rather lose a sale than have you buy the wrong thing. In the interest of being completely clear about what is and is not being sold:

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Suitability

Who it’s for

A good fit if you

  • Want a structured, written programme rather than videos, an app or a feed of advice.
  • Are willing to spend ten to twenty minutes a day actually writing things down.
  • Prefer plain, unsentimental language to slogans and hype.
  • Want one finished book you own outright, not a subscription or a community to keep paying for.
  • Are ready to write honest answers that nobody else will read.

Not a good fit if you

  • Want a coach, a mentor or somebody to review your answers — we do not offer that.
  • Are looking for a way to make money. This book is not about earning, investing or business.
  • Expect a guaranteed result. Nothing here is promised except the book itself.
  • Need help with a medical or psychological difficulty — please speak to a qualified professional.
  • Want a printed book. This title is available as a PDF only.
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Is this only for men?

It is written for men and uses that framing throughout, particularly in the chapters on friendship, fatherhood and anger. Anyone may buy it; we simply want to be honest about who it addresses.

Will it make me more money or fix my relationship?

We make no such claim. The book is a set of essays and written exercises on mindset, discipline and conduct. What comes of it depends entirely on the work you do, and we promise no outcome.

Is it therapy, or a replacement for it?

No. It is not treatment and it is not written by a clinician. Chapter 17 deals specifically with the limits of self-directed work and when to speak to a qualified professional instead.

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